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What Is Happiness?

The Story Of Happiness On Demand

Our Current Model Of Happiness Is Not Working

Spirituality

Where To Start

What Is Happiness?

Is happiness something that just occasionally happens to you? Are you sometimes happy but most of the time you lack something that you need in order to be happy? Are you in constant pursuit of happiness, but it is always one or two steps away?

If I just get that job/raise/car/house/spouse… then I will finally be happy?

No matter what you do, you’re never quite there? You just can’t get the things you need in order to be happy.

Before you get there, though, you cause yourself stress and anxiety. Maybe you stress about achieving your goals so much, that your anxiety leads to depression, or you lose your physical health. 

Well, you are not alone. This is how we are brought up. We grow up hearing what to do to be successful in life, to be happy. There is always something we need to do: get good grades at school, get a job with a good salary, get a big house and a fancy car and so on.

We live in a physical world, so it is natural for us to want and get different things. Our deep desire is to experience things in a way this physical world so magnificently allows, so indeed we should strive to make the most out of our lives. For you getting the most out of life may include getting things like a fancy house, fast car, holidays across the world, more money than you can spend. These are all fine goals.

The catch is, that acquiring wealth and all the possessions you can imagine, may have nothing to do with happiness.

Getting something in order to be something is the society’s model of happiness. Unfortunately it is fundamentally wrong.

Doing something to get something, that you think will bring you happiness, will most likely not bring you happiness at all.

Money doesn't Bring You Happiness

So if money and all the possessions in the world won’t make you happy, then what will?

Maybe doing yoga? Meditation? Spiritual practices? 

Giving up everything you own?

I know! Doing some charity work should certainly bring about happiness! Right?

Well, the problem is not what you are doing, rather than what you are being. So what does that imply? I’m going to make a bold claim:

Being happy is not the end result. It is the starting point.

I’ll repeat that:

Being happy is not the end result. It is the starting point.

This probably contradicts everything you have learned and come to accept about life, but it is the beginning of a new understanding about life and how to live it.

However, it does not imply that you must give up your pursuit of wealth and material possessions. It simply means that you should flip your do something – get something – be something formula upside down. Or reverse it, whatever way you want to look at it.

Concentrate your efforts on being happy first, then all the things you want in life will naturally follow.

In essence, just be happy. Be happy regardless of the circumstances around you or despite the thought of needing something. Well there’s a good tip! The problem is, of course, that it’s easier said than done. Otherwise we would all be happy all the time!

I know, I’ve been there. Trying to make my life work by doing things. Even going as far as forcing myself to think I was happy even though deep inside I knew I wasn’t. Not truly.

That is why I started this blog. Learning how to be happy requires a change in how you view the world and what you believe about it.

"Being happy is not the end result. It is the starting point."

The top secret formula for happiness they don’t want you to know

Firstly, who’s they?

Secondly, I don’t think it’s a secret, I just wanted to use the headline (ironically, of course).

A secret (defined by the one and only Merriam-Webster) is:

a : something kept hidden or unexplained : mystery

b : something kept from the knowledge of others or shared only confidentially with a few

If someone knew (and there even was) a formula for being happy, why would they deliberately keep this information to themselves? “Only a select few can be happy, so have I, the discoverer of happiness decided”. Yeah, I don’t think so.

How to be happy is not a secret (well, maybe it could be in a sense that it’s a mystery) as much as it is a concept that we have gotten wrong. 

We do not need to get something in order to be something. We do not need to get money, house, spouse, car, kids, vacations in exotic locations etc. to be happy. 

Happiness is our natural state of being. 

We are happy, until we think that we need something to be happy. By thinking that we need something to be happy we are causing ourselves to be unhappy.

That’s the secret of happiness right there, if there ever was one.

So in order to be happy, just… don’t cause yourself to be unhappy.

Easy, right?

Yeah, right. It is not so easy to undo years and years of subconscious programming and learn to think in a completely new way.

Not to worry, there are techniques and tools that will help you with the process. That’s what this whole website is for.

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    A Blog About Spiritual Fitness?

    As I was going through a major transformation of my life, physically, mentally and spiritually, back in 2016-2018, I started contemplating the idea of blogging about my experience. I had some major “Eureka” moments which I thought could be beneficial to others as well, so why not share them?

    My personal transformation was, for the most part, tied to practices that might be considered “spiritual” or “new-age spiritual” (as I like to label them), and even though spirituality might be something weird, strange or even nonsense to many people, the practices worked wonders for me. “Wow! More people should know about these practices”, I thought. “I should share what I know”. 

    N.B! Please don’t confuse spirituality with religion (or spiritualism). Those are very different things. There’s a whole section about spirituality later on this page, I suggest you take a look at that to get a grasp of what is my take on spirituality in the context of this blog.

    So I started drafting and wrote pages and pages about “the new spirituality” and “spiritual fitness” (a term used extensively by Jeffrey Allen). The blog was going to be about how to get to top spiritual fitness by training with these spiritual practices. 

    “We train our bodies at the gym and try to keep our minds sharp, but how about our spiritual fitness? What is it and how would you even work on your spiritual fitness?”, I wondered. 

    N.B! Call it spirit or something else, there are three parts that make up our existence: Body, mind and spirit. Body, mind and subconscious mind. Ego, super-ego and Id. Physical, non-physical and metaphysical etc. Please don’t get stuck on the terms used. I like to talk about the subconscious mind, because it might be the easiest to conceive, but I also refer to spirit.

    The idea of spiritual fitness kept growing and found a new unexpected direction while I was working in a kindergarten (talk about a transformation, jumping from corporate banking to teaching children).

    What We Can Learn From Children

    Children are the best. For them, life is literally all play. Fun and games. It’s impossible to be sad when children are around, for me anyway. They express everything so sincerely. It got me wondering why us, adults, have such a hard time expressing our emotions. We keep our feelings to ourselves, even reserving love for just one ore a few special persons in our lives. Most of the time we can’t enjoy life and have fun like children do. We worry and stress, become anxious and depressed. Why? Why do we lose the innocence and fun of being a child? Does life have to be this way?

    The answer is no, we don’t have to lose the wonder, awe and joy we experience as children. But we most likely do. Again, why does this happen? 

    It should be clear, that it’s because of the way we are brought up. Children are the metaphorical blank slates. They don’t know about the stress and anxiety that life as an adult could bring (that’s not to say children can’t experience stress), until we teach them. So why don’t we teach them otherwise?

    Collectively we, the human race, have created societies based around beliefs that drive us to exhaustion and cause stress, anxiety and depression. There are some eye opening stats later in this page, please read on.

    Let’s continue the story just a bit.

    I had no education to work in a kindergarten, so my boss encouraged me to watch some videos about the most important skills needed to work with children. Can you guess what the most important skills are? 

    I bet for anyone, like me, who had not worked directly with young children before, the answer is surprising. The most important skills to master are social-emotional skills.

    I know, right! What are those? 

    Why We Are Not Taught How To Be Happy

    I had never heard of a concept like this before. Teach the children to express and master their emotions in a healthy way. Find in each one the positives and encourage positive behaviour.

    What is this? This is strange and new. I realised I never learned these things when I was a child! I didn’t even know social-emotional skills are taught these days. They certainly weren’t taught when I went to kindergarten. Not to mention school. Never once did I hear about this. Mind you, I’m born in 1982 so times are different now and teaching social-emotional skills is probably more common today than in my youth.

    When I was a child, I was told like most of my generation, to hide my feelings. “Why are you so angry?! Go to your room until you calm down”. “Why are you crying? There’s nothing to be sad about”. That’s the way it worked back then. It’s what my parents were taught and their parents before them and their parents… you get the point. We are repeating a cycle, teaching our children what we have been taught.

    I understood right there, at that moment, while watching the videos, that most of my struggles in life stem from this model of upbringing. Never learning to address how I feel and control my emotions in a healthy way. Learning that life is a struggle full of sadness and disappointment. 

    No one ever taught me how to be happy.

    It is not necessarily intentional as I’m sure our parents have our best interest in mind, but many of these beliefs will be picked up subconsciously along the way as we grow. We learn by watching how others behave in different situations. Our parents, teachers, friends, anyone we come into contact with. 

    Take a look at the state of the world and see what this has resulted in. Conflict, hate, despair, anxiety, depression, unfulfilling work, wars, segregation, you name it. 

    Is this a world where people are happy and having fun? Certainly doesn’t seem that way.

    Break The Cycle

    It occurred to me, that the way we are currently raised and educated is getting us nowhere. Emotionally we never mature past the age of five. We call ourselves adults, yet we can’t even resolve our differences without resorting to violence. “You can’t have this, this is mine”. “You are not welcome to play with me, I only want to play with my friend” and so on. Just like kids in kindergarten.

    Our inability to understand, let alone control or choose, our emotions has lead to a world, where anxiety and depression cause major problems. A horrifyingly high number of people are unable to work or even live a decent life because they are so depressed. They are forced to early retirement or worst case scenario, depression can even lead to suicide. 

    After these realisations, it became clear to me that it does not have to be this way. It is hard to get rid of old habits and break the cycle of teaching our children the way we were taught. Despite that, I had learned, as an adult, to resolve my subconscious issues and to control my emotions. I beat the stress and anxiety caused by our current beliefs of how life should be lived. Under all the layers of accumulated dirt (non-beneficial behaviour) I found peace and happiness, my true self. The childlike wonder and awe were still there. I remembered that life is supposed to be fun, not a struggle and I could and should still pursue my dreams. 

    I realised that what I’m really getting at with this spiritual fitness thing, is how to be happy. The secret of happiness just so happens to be somewhat spiritual. We can master our emotions. We can choose how we feel and true happiness is found within us. 

    "No one ever taught me how to be happy"

    Change Yourself - Change Your Circumstances

    What started as a fun little project developed into a full-fledged fight against stress, anxiety and depression.

    A fight for everyone’s right to be 

    • Stress-free
    • Exited about life and what tomorrow brings
    • Free to express oneself

    And most importantly

    • Happy

    If we want to stop the anxiety and depression that our current way of life is bringing about, we must commit to change:

    1. We must first fix our own issues. Get rid of negative, non-beneficial beliefs. Transform ourselves to accept that life can be fun and easy for everyone.
    2. Teach a new way of living to others, especially children. Self-worth, empathy, social-emotional skills.
    3. Embrace a new truth about ourselves: Oneness. Differentiation does not mean separation. We are all in this together and one is not better or worse than the other; only different. 

    That’s how Happiness On Demand was born. We can all learn to be happy whenever and wherever we want, regardless of the circumstances around us: By changing ourselves we can also change the circumstances. We do not have to stress and worry all the time and we can, and should, be exited about life and the future.

    It will take some time to adapt a new way of thinking. There will be resistance. But if you commit to transforming yourself, your life will never be the same, but a thousand times better.

    On this website I’ll share everything I know and every bit of detail that has helped me, so you too can embark on your own personal transformation journey towards happiness.

    And in this case, the journey is just as fun as the destination.

    Our Current Model Of Happiness Is Not Working

    What's Wrong With Wanting To Be Happy?

    What if I told you, 

    that you could be happy just by getting this one, new, amazing product?

    Seriously, take a look at any commercial. They tell us, maybe not in those exact words, but with pictures, music and a smooth voiceover, that we absolutely need the product they are selling to be happy. Be happy just like the people we see in that very same commercial.

    This is what we are constantly being told. Our whole society is based around getting something in order to be something. That’s what we learn from a very young age. 

    This is a role society needs us to fill. We must be trying to get something in order to be beneficial for society as a whole (a bit bleak, but you get the point).

    The underlying problem is, that trying to fulfil a role set to you by society, is likely to cause the exact opposite effect of what you are trying to achieve, namely, happiness.

    What Happens If You Fail?

    This is a fundamental flaw in the workings of our society. From the moment we are born, we are being integrated to being a part of the machinery that keeps our society running. I’m not saying that’s a bad thing, but the reasoning behind it is skewed. For example you are being told that you need a good education, otherwise you will miss all chances in life.

    Go to college, then university. Once you have a degree, then you can get a high paying job. Work your way up the corporate ladder. Get promotions, get a higher salary, get more responsibility. That way you can have the money for all the other stuff in life.

    Buy a house and furnish it with the trendiest, most expensive furniture. Get a big, expensive car. Maybe you want a family? Well it certainly helps if you are successful at work, because nobody wants to date a loser. Then finally, after years and years of hard work, sweat, tears and long hours, you finally have it all together. You are happy, aren’t you?

    Let me ask you a question: What happens if you fail?

    Did you flunk out of college? Perhaps you didn’t make it in the corporate world? You don’t have the money to buy the house and the car you want? What now? Now you can never be happy! You’re a failure! 

    Seems harsh (and it is!), but that’s the way we are taught. What happens if we fail to meet the expectations that society has set for us? There is no plan B. 

    Your Happiness Is (always) Just One Step Away

    Perhaps even more importantly, what happens if you do meet the expectations? Will you find happiness, or is there always just one more thing you need and then you will finally be happy? Maybe a bigger house. After you move in, then you will be happy. Perhaps you would be, but your relationship is not working out. Just find a new partner and get married, then everything will be in place for happiness. 

    Do you see the point here? It might be impossible to be happy this way. It’s just and endless cycle of fulfilling expectations that, mind you someone else has told you, need to be fulfilled in order for you to be happy. 

    Not only is this cycle not getting us any closer to happiness, it is in fact doing the exact opposite.

    According to this article by research.com:

    • 24% of students in the United States are getting stressed about their future and finding a job after graduation.
    • Six out ten of college students experienced “overwhelming anxiety,” while over 40% were saddled with crippling depression
    • Between the school years 2009- 2015, there was a 30% increase in the number of American students who visited campus counseling centers, even though enrollment only increased by 5%.

    The stress of fulfilling these expectations, that we as a society have placed upon ourselves is indeed overwhelming. But maybe it’s just the school system that’s broken and causes stress. As we get older, we get closer to our (society’s) dreams and can manage stress more easily. Let’s take a look at some other stats.

    Stress In The U.S. and around the world

    National Institute of Mental Health shares statistics of anxiety disorders:

    • 21% of U.S. adults experienced mental illness in 2020 (52.9 million people). This represents 1 in 5 adults.
    • 5.6% of U.S. adults experienced serious mental illness in 2020(14.2 million people). This represents 1 in 20 adults.
    • 50% of all lifetime mental illness begins by age 14, and 75% by age 24
    • Suicide is the 2nd leading cause of death among people aged 10-34 

    Among the mental health disorders, the most prevalent ones are anxiety and depression with a total of 27 % of all mental illness. 

    Doesn’t seem like our model for happiness is working out too well. 

    On the other hand, these are stats from the U.S. Maybe things are not as bad elsewhere in the world?

    This is what The World Health Organisation can tell us:

    • Depression is a common mental disorder. Globally, it is estimated that 5.0% of adults suffer from depression (280 million people)
    • Depression is a leading cause of disability worldwide and is a major contributor to the overall global burden of disease.
    • Depression can lead to suicide.

    Apparently things are not any better around the world.

    Hundreds of millions of people around the world suffer from depression, hundreds of millions more from anxiety and stress.

    Seems like there’s something fundamentally flawed in our approach to life.

    The Happiest Place On Earth

    Even here in Finland, the happiest country in the world (five years in a row now in 2022), anxiety and depression are common. It is estimated that 20 – 25 % of Finnish adults suffer from a mental health disorder every year and 20 % have had suicidal thoughts at some point in their life.

    It doesn’t sound right, that the supposedly happiest people in the world are just as anxious, depressed and even suicidal as everyone else.

    Emile Durkheim was a French sociologist who lived in the early 20th century. Durkheim formed a theory linking suicides to the workings of our society. Durkheim believed that suicide was an instance of social deviance: Any transgression of socially established norms.

    Sounds awfully familiar (if you read the previous paragraphs). Doesn’t feel too good now to now that society wants you to conform to it’s norms. Do this and that or be left out. The consequences of failing to meet the norms might not be so nonchalant after all.

    To elaborate more: Being a part of a community that is striving towards common goals is extremely important: If societal relationships break, suicide rates tend to go up. This could happen, for example, at a time when the economy is booming, specifically in a society where competition and individual goals are emphasised. People have a hard time fitting in if they do not succeed and thus become disappointed, depressed and suicidal.

    There’s an example of this from Finland. Suicide rates were at an all time high when the economic cycle peaked in the late 1980’s. Many became wealthy, most had good jobs, life was peachy. After that, in the 1990’s, there was a great recession, people lost their jobs and savings, but guess what? Suicide rates started to go down. 

    Is there a connection? Maybe, maybe not. It’s likely, though (based on the theory by Emile Durkheim, and in my humble opinion of course). The recession was something that formed a common goal for the Finnish people. We were all in it together and we would get through it together. 

    Durkheim’s theory has been extensively discussed and even criticised of course, but nonetheless it makes an important point to consider.

    The point being, that the more society’s agenda revolves around individual goals (just get one more promotion, then good things will happen) and competition (get good grades, otherwise you won’t go to college unlike all of your friends), the more unhappiness it is likely to cause.

    Maybe it’s time you reconsider your model of happiness?

    What To Make Of All Of This?

    There are many contributing factors to mental health disorders, but from my own experience I can tell, that deep down at the core of the problem lies the belief “what I am doing is not enough”. The feeling of inadequacy trying to fulfil unrealistic expectations. Not fitting in to the one-size-fits-nobody mold that our society keeps pushing us through. The feeling of “not enough” leads to stress, anxiety, sadness and depression. 

    There are other factors of course and we will examine the problems and possible solutions further in the blog.

    In any case, there’s a lot to take in here, so what’s the takeaway?

    1. Do not despair. There is hope and there is help. I broke free of the cycle and found happiness. You can do this too. That is what this website is for.
    2. Relieve stress. Learn to control your feelings trough practices like meditation.
    3. Change your view of the world and your place in it, by changing your thinking and underlying beliefs.
    4. Adapt a new model of happiness by focusing on what you want vs. what everybody else has told you should want.

    Spirituality

    what is spirituality and what does it have to do with happiness?

    Wait a minute! I thought this website was about happiness!? What is this spirituality mumbo jumbo I keep reading about?

    Yes, the framework of this site is spiritual. But don’t worry. You don’t have to be “spiritual” or “religious” or anything other than who you are right now in order to get the most out of this material.

    Still, I feel it will be beneficial to understand what is meant by spirituality.

    First of all, please don’t be shunned away by the term spirituality. Spirituality has nothing to do with religion. In fact, it’s quite the opposite.  Religion is about accepting the thoughts of others as your truth.  Spirituality encourages you to explore your own thoughts and arrive to your own truth.

    So I’m not going to tell you that the only way you can ever find happiness is to give your life in the hands of a religious deity and trust that he/she/it may be graceful enough to allow you to be happy.

    On the other hand I’m also not going to tell you, if you are religious, to abandon your faith. Being spiritual does not require that. You may even find that being a bit more spiritual enhances your relationship with the deity/deities of your choosing.

    What I am going to tell you though, is that no matter what your current perspective of life, happiness, religion, god or the universe, allow yourself to be open to new ideas, new possibilities. Approach the concept of happiness in spiritual context with an open mind.

    Recognize that there are things in your life that you might need to consider from a new perspective.

    After reading everything about our current model of happiness (not working), don’t you think we need a new approach to life and happiness?

    Our old model of happiness is not spiritual, but material (or physical). It is based on the concept of separation and survival of the fittest:

    • I will only be happy once I possess enough material wealth
    • Only the strong will survive and that is the natural way
    • If someone else gets something that I don’t have, it means I lost
    • If I give something to another, I lose that thing
    • It’s okay to benefit at the expense of others, because there’s not enough for everyone

    On the other hand, this concept of  “the new spirituality” is based on the assumption that everything is inherently connected as one and that none of us can thrive if we all don’t thrive:

    • Abandon the concept of separation and start living so that everyone can have equal opportunities
    • Understand that you win only if everyone else also wins
    • Find your truth about who are you and why you are here – and then live that truth
    • Abandon fear and make every action out of love 
    • Accept that happiness is your natural state of being

    Happiness Is Spiritual - Found in Transformation

    There is no single, widely agreed upon definition of spirituality. There are, in fact, at least 27 different definitions, which do partly overlap but mostly vary differently from each other. For our purposes though, we do not need to explicitly agree on the meaning of the term. The most important factor here is the modern emphasis on subjective experience.

    Spirituality encompasses the deepest values and meanings by which people live, incorporating personal growth or transformation, in a context separate from organized religious institutions.

    That is the context of spirituality here. The spiritual practices in this website are all about changing your beliefs, transforming yourself and finding your own truth about life, the universe and everything.

    That is the connection to happiness as well. True happiness is found in finding your own truth and transforming yourself to the grandest vision of yourself.

    When you read about things like meditation, visualisation, practicing gratefulness, which may feel new-age spiritual, somewhat way out there, ideas to you, approach them from the perspective of personal transformation.

    It does not matter if you are religious or not. It does not matter whether you believe you have the power to change your life or whether that power is held by something bigger than you. It does not matter whether you believe that visualisation attracts energy that manifests itself in physical form, or whether visualisation guides you subconsciously towards your goals.

    What matters is that you keep an open mind. Be open to the possibility that there is more to the universe than just the physical. Most importantly, try things out for yourself. See what works for you. As cliche as it may sound, we are all unique. There is no one thing that works for everyone (although there are some fundamental rules to the workings of the universe).

    Just know that you can’t (or even are not expected to) change your beliefs and start living a new truth overnight. Accidentally, this ties in nicely with my original idea for “top spiritual fitness”.

    Getting “spiritually fit” takes time and dedication. Like going to the gym to get fit. It is not enough to just think about lifting weights (although studies have shown that just thinking about lifting weights actually stimulates muscle growth!), you have to physically move yourself to the gym and break a sweat in a workout. Not to mention you can’t just do it once, you have to do it two or more times per week.


    That’s the case with “Top Spiritual Fitness” as well. It takes time and dedication to get “in shape”. But the good news is, you can start to see results almost instantly! And unlike working out, this is actually easy and fun!

    Ok, sweating in the gym can be fun too. The important thing is: start your workout and keep at it!

    The New Spirituality - A New Way To Live Your Life

    But wait! There’s More! We can also look at spirituality, or something spirituals, as the opposite of something physical. They are opposites, but in fact just different sides to the same coin.

    Let me pose you a question: Are you happy with your life? More specifically, are you satisfied with all of the aspects of your life, like financial, social, recreational etc. and living your life to the fullest?

    Or perhaps you think that life often kicks you in the butt and you wonder what does it take to make your life work. You struggle, stress and worry. You are anxious or depressed. Maybe you think “this is not how I wanted my life to go”.

    If you have everything in order and you are happy, congratulations! Keep doing what you do. But if you struggle with some or all aspects of your life, ask yourself another question:

    Is this working? In relation to what my dream life looks like in my mind, is what I am doing now working?

    It is a very simple but effective question. Spend some time on it. Think about it. 

    You might have heard a definition of insanity that goes: “insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results”.

    That’s why you might want to try a spiritual approach. If you are not happy with your life and what you are thinking, saying and doing now is not enough to make a change, try a different approach. Change your set of beliefs, change your thinking and change your life.

    Simple enough? 

    So here’s the beef, and you might have heard this one before:

    “If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration.” 

    ― Nikola Tesla

    Great! What does it have to do with spirituality? 

    I’m glad you asked, for these things are the very building blocks of the new spirituality.

    I want to bring this up, because I know this is a hard pill to swallow. It’s okay. Your mind will resist things that are unfamiliar. What we now call our ‘comfort zone’ is a survival mechanism that has been with us for thousands of years. When humans were still hunter-gatherers living in tribes, anything unfamiliar was a potential threat to your life. That’s why our mind is wary of anything unfamiliar. 

    But we also have the capability to learn and make the unfamiliar familiar. It just takes time and the willingness to look at things from a new perspective. Remember, doing the same things will keep bringing you the same results. Open your mind to new ideas. Change your perspective.

    The Science Of Spirituality

    So what is this new spirituality? What is this new perspective?

    One of the theories that are out there trying to explain everything, string theory, is about the very things Nikola Tesla spoke of. I know that the theory has yet to be proven and has it’s flaws, but it quite elegantly explains everything Nikola Tesla and many others knew instinctively. Not to mention during thousands of years of spiritual practice in the east, the enlightened ones there have been telling the same story.

    Our universe is made of particles: protons, neutrons and electrons that bind together to make atoms, that in turn make up everything that exists. Even you. You are made of atoms. Atoms are made of particles. String theory suggests that each particle (in the standard model of particle physics) is a different vibration of a single type of one-dimensional string. Consequently, everything is made of vibrating, minuscule energy packages labelled strings. Think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration.

    We are made of energy, of certain frequency of vibration. Doesn’t that sound like new-age spiritual mumbo jumbo to you? (I mean, even to me it does). Even so it may very well be the most fundamental understanding of life, the universe and everything.

    Spirituality, or ‘the new spirituality’ as I like to call it, revolves around this idea of everything being an infinite field of vibrating energy, and us being an inseparable part of that energy field. We are all made of the same thing vibrating differently and in doing so taking different forms. We are vibrations of the field, and as the vibrations of the field form us, surround us and penetrate us, so do our vibrations also pulsate out to the field, forming it in the process.

    It could be said, that the very act of observing things around you is what gives your reality form:

    Quantum Theory Demonstrated: Observation Affects Reality

    I’m not going to dive any deeper into physics here, but isn’t it surprising to find out that our physicists are now able to study the very things that have up to this point been mostly metaphysical?

    In any case, these realisations allow us to take a different perspective to our lives. The new spirituality flips what we have come to think upside down and inside out. 

    • We think that we are separate from the world – when in fact we are an inseparable part of it
    • We think that things in our lives are out of our control – when in fact we are the creators of our reality
    • We think that we are powerless to change – when in fact we hold the power of the entire universe within us.

    This is where all the ‘way out there’ concepts of spirituality come from. Things like: we are all one, thoughts become things, manifestation, sixth sense (which is ‘knowing’ by the way, sensing the vibrations of the field).

    Phew. That’s a lot to take in, and there’s so much more to explore. This turned out way longer than I originally planned, but again, I feel like this is important to explain. Spirituality and science do not need to contradict each other. They may very well be just two sides to the same coin, each describing the same thing from a different perspective. 

    Like Albert Einstein said: 

    “It would be possible to describe everything scientifically, but it would make no sense; it would be without meaning, as if you described a Beethoven symphony as a variation of wave pressure.” 

    So what’s the verdict? What to make of all of this?

    As anticlimactic as it sounds: It does not matter what you believe. You can believe what I suggest here, or you may believe something completely different.

    What I am trying to do here, is empower you. Empower you to believe that you have control over your life. 

    You do not have to believe that the universe bends to your will or that you can manifest things out of thin air. The only thing that matters, is that you believe that YOU can change YOUR life. 

    "True happiness is found in finding your own truth and transforming yourself to the grandest vision of yourself."

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